On January 26th 2016 a Brownsburg High School LGBTQ student completed suicide. This student was bullied. Bullied by students, kids from other schools but let’s focus on the fact that he was bullied by teachers and coaches. Teachers within Brownsburg High school that felt there personal beliefs gave them the right to tell this 14 year old boy and I quote “stop acting like a fag” or when a teacher said to his friends to “stop hanging around him” or when his football playing time went from starting both ways on both offense and defense to not playing a single minute.
You see these teachers, coaches, adults that are with our children for hours a day have an influence on our children’s lives. Most of the time that influence is positive but sometimes it’s not. Sometimes it’s negative.
To be clear I’m not blaming anyone or any one particular thing for our sons suicide. He battled with himself for a long time, but what I will say is if that teacher or that coach would have taken their own personal beliefs out of their teaching or coaching they could have impacted our sons life for the better versus not.
Since the loss of our son Brownsburg High School has completed multiple trainings, attended many meetings, met with many organizations trying to decide what resources would be best to use and implement in their schools. They have made changes and gone above and beyond what state minimums requires when it comes to LGBTQ youth and suicide. They have EDUCATED themselves on what is best for the youth they are responsible for.
I’m not a doctor. I’m not a teacher. I’m not a coach. I’m a mom who wakes up everyday with a piece of me missing. I’m a mom who cries each day for the nightmare to be over. I’m a mom who has to explain to a 7 year old and 2 year old that their brother is gone and never coming back. I don’t expect any of you to understand. I’m so glad you don’t. The pain of loosing your child is unimaginable.
To everyone reading this do everything you can to not be where we are. As a community we must do everything we can to ensure that ALL our youth feel protected and loved NO MATTER what your PERSONAL beliefs are.
I commend Brownsburg High School for understanding the impact of what a name means for a child. To you or I it may seem non important or silly or against a belief but for that LGBTQ child it could be the one thing that allows them to see they are wanted no matter our differences.
Brownsburg isn’t doing this for media attention or because they personally feel one thing or another they are looking at these situations and they are making life impacting decisions for the children they are responsible for. Thank you Brownsburg High School for setting rules for all your students and expecting your employees to follow them.